There is an ancient Chinese proverb that points to the naivety of the mind. We associate things as "good" or "bad" in this dualistic society that we live in today. But in truth, each event is neutral news. The mind could never predict the plus sides of the seemingly "bad" news - nor the pitfalls of the seemingly "good" news. With each news there are doors that open and doors that close. And remember, masters live in the middle.
The proverb goes like this:
‘A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!”. The farmer replied, ‘Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see’.
A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
Later that week, the farmer’s son was trying to break one of the mares and she threw him to the ground, breaking his leg. The villagers cried, “Your son broke his leg, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied,“Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
A few weeks later, soldiers from the national army marched through town, recruiting all the able-bodied boys for the army. They did not take the farmer’s son, still recovering from his injury. Friends shouted, “Your boy is spared, what tremendous luck!” To which the farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
Do you see the point here? How many times has the "perfect" job or woman or opportunity slipped away from you, only for you to realize that:
1. It was never perfect in the first place and
2. something better came your way as a result of you not getting that thing.
The reason this is so powerful is because it helps us live less stressed lives. It helps us become less "graspy" to outcomes and to things that we think we need. The universe is always giving us what we NEED, not necessarily what we WANT. The mind wants it easy. The mind wants it now. But the grand consciousness & universal divine wisdom is feeding us life exactly as it should be, and exactly what we need for maximum potential growth in every moment.
What really helped me with this lesson was ayahuasca in the amazon jungle. I would go into ceremony expecting particular lessons and expecting to get clarity on things that I thought I "needed" clarity on. Ayahuasca would throw me into a completely different storm and somehow at the end of the night, I realized that it was exactly what I needed.
And check out the video on the subject below: